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Being a player/coach isn’t easy

Being a player/coach isn’t easy, be it sports, business or life in general.

Last weekend was the annual Cape Cod Lacrosse Tournament. For the past four years, my buddies have registered a team and I just showed up to play. I did my part to lead on the field, but I didn’t feel responsibility as a coach.

This year, I stepped it up. I designed our jerseys (and picked the team socks!), worked on the roster a bit more, communicated to everyone, decided the starters, influenced our style of play, (even took some videos to thank our sponsors) etc… all while trying to play defense and have a great time with friends I only see once a year.

It wasn’t easy.

I’m competitive and I like to win. Last year, we did not win (the championship, nor many games). This year, I was determined to change that.

But in the process, I realized it’s a really tough position - being a friend, a teammate and the coach. I wanted to win and yet I also wanted all my buddies to get plenty of playing time. I wanted to coach, but I also wanted to just let my team play the game - purely and free - the way it’s meant to be played.

I know I blatantly made some mistakes as a coach (and as a player!), and it was scary in Game 1 when we lost badly, but I’m really proud to say we won every game after that to bring home the 2010 Championship!

I think the winning formula was a balance between leadership and letting go. When you put the right team together, give them a problem to solve and the tools and trust to do it… good things are going to happen.

And really important, we emphasized having fun on the field. The team we beat was swearing at one another by half-time, while we coolly joked about the previous night’s shenanigans. 

The best compliment on the weekend though was this: 

I heard a lot of people on the sidelines saying how funny you guys were and how much fun you all were having during the game…must be legit if you can have fun and win at the same time!

Be passionate about what you do, have fun doing it and it’ll never seem like work. While I know I learned a lot of this through my career in sports, I’ve had a similar experience in business.

When we started working on HomeField, I know I had a tendency to micro-manage, which isn’t great as a friend, co-worker or ‘CEO’ to my cofounders, Dan and Joe, and our new guy, Henry. But I’ve learned to let go and the results have been phenomenal. It wouldn’t be possible without the trust that we all have with one another.

This week, we’re in my hometown on Cape Cod to get some great work done on HomeField, but also to think big and have fun building a great company together.

So here’s to Beach House Lacrosse - the 2010 Cape Cod Lacrosse Champions - and to my buddies - Dan, Joe, and Henry - for being awesome teammates, letting me be a player/coach.

[Photos by Leslie].

Be the captain of your soul.

I thank whatever gods may be

For my unconquerable soul.

I am the master of my fate

I am the captain of my soul. 

This is an excerpt from ‘Invictus’ - by William Ernest Henley and it’s used in the film Invictus - the inspiring true story of the South African rugby team that won the World Cup (with Nelson Mandela’s avid support).

I got to see it on a recent cross-country flight. I really loved the story and found honest inspiration from Mandela (at least, Morgan Freeman’s portrayal of him), though I really sympathized with Matt Damon’s character, Francoise Pienaar - the captain of the team - trying to lead the South Africans to victory against seemingly impossible odds [among other things, the finale against the ever-intimidating All Blacks (seriously, watch that clip)].

Be it sports, startups, or life in general - great leadership is crucial to success, and it all starts with a single belief in your own ability, much the way Mandela and Pienaar sparked South Africa to a World Cup victory.

But you don’t have to be the president of your country or the captain of your team. You don’t even need followers. Everyone can be a leader.

You just need to be the captain of your soul.

The Season is Here… it’s Always Here.

Lacrosse, per NCAA definition, is a “spring” sport.  I know it’s February and there’s snow on the ground outside my window, but games have started so to me, it’s spring.

Five years ago, I’d be cranking through classes all day before a team lift (always legs on Monday), then I’d put in 2.5 hours battling through drills on a turf field on the roof of the Brown gymnasium, (Yes, on the roof.  No, it wasn’t cool.  It was cold, windy, and half the field was covered in building exhaust… ok, yeah, we sort of relished it), then we’d head inside to watch game film for 30 minutes and finally sit in the ice bath to soak up the soreness.

The coolest part was I did all of this surrounded by 40 other guys who all had the same mission as I - win game #1.  Then #2, #3, #4 and so on…

These days, my competitive career is entirely different.

I probably stay more active in lacrosse than my teammates on the NYAC.  Already this year I took a trip to Miami to play in a tournament.  I had a blast playing with some other amazing players, the competition was solid and I even took an 80mph shot in the ribs that has been painfully reminding me of the trip for a month now.  (Seriously, this bruised rib is one of the most nagging injuries I’ve ever had).

And last weekend, I headed back to Brown with some other alums for a preseason scrimmage against the current Bears team (Unsurprisingly, Providence hadn’t warmed up since I graduated.  Wind chill had the temp around 7 degrees).  Still, it was a great day and us veterans were able to pull out a close win over the young pups.

The win was fun for a moment, but there was still a fundamental lacking for me and I’m realizing how much I miss the bonding of a team working towards a common goal and the inherently high level of competition on a daily basis.

Sure, when my NYAC team starts up soon we will all be focused on winning our 4th straight A.L.L. Championship, but we don’t even practice.  We just show up on Sundays and play.  It’s easier on the calendar, but I know deep down every teammate of mine, and every true competitor out there, needs that battle and that feeling of true team.

But since my lacrosse career won’t last forever, I’ve assembled a new team (different “sport”), uber-competitive, we all have the same mission… and this game is played 24/7.